Is it really true that you don’t know what to do?”
I asked this question of a prospective client during an emotion-filled phone Clarity call.
I could hear her hesitation. I could feel her frustration.
“No,” she said. “I do know what to do…what needs to change. I just don’t know why I can’t make those changes.” She sighed the sigh of years of pent up frustration.
We know the Truth inside us…we often just ignore it, smash it down, or override it because of a busload of other reasons.
The busload of other reasons is a LOT of the work I do with my clients.
They work with me when some part of their life is confusing, frustrating, or otherwise causing a burr of discontent to rub them the wrong way.
Our conversations often start in these different ways:
“Angie, I’m totally disorganized.”
What I hear is: I won’t take time for myself.
“Angie, I can’t get my important work done.”
What I hear is: I am having trouble setting boundaries and putting myself first.
“Angie, I am completely overwhelmed with work.” What I hear is: What everyone else wants is more important than what I want.
“Angie, I don’t know what to do [with my life, my work, my business].” What I hear is: I can’t hear…or won’t believe…what my heart is whispering to me.”
“Angie, I know something needs to change.”
What I hear is: I’m unwilling to make the changes necessary to end my suffering.
Oddly, the first step towards making radical, healthy change is noticing where things are not working in your life. It’s about acknowledging your suffering.
The pain and suffering (or annoyance and confusion) are temporary (truly) but happening for a very important reason.
The second step towards making radical, healthy change is deciding to dig into the suffering. What is the message? What is it here to tell me? Teach me? And often, we can’t do that work alone (even I work with my own coaches when I’m stuck).
So, gentle reader: what area of your life is causing you suffering? What part(s) of your life are you seeking clarity around?
Would you allow me to help you find some clarity? Because – truly – suffering (especially in silence) sucks.
P.S. May I ask you to share this post with one or two people? People who admit some part of their life sucks and is messing up the rest of it? I love working with people who are courageous and brave and know how to take action…but might be feeling a bit less courageous when they think about this stuck place because it feels so awful…
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